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THE DATING GAME - 10 WAYS TO MAKE A BLIND DATE WORK |
Published: 26/05/09 |
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The Dating Game - 10 Ways to Make A Blind Date Work
You've had the online introductions, learnt something about each other but this is nothing like meeting in the flesh. 10 Tips to help are these, some we've said before but need reiteration, most are new:-
1. Meet in public
This is so important. Keep it public, informal and flexible.Sticking to a busy public venue, such as a pub or a coffee shop, keeps you safe. You may feel like you've made a 'connection' through your emails, but you still don't know each other. A blind date should never be too private an affair.
Keeping things informal also allows you to size up your date without feeling trapped.
2. Find a talking point
3. Do we shake hands or kiss?
Shaking hands is for job interviews, and hugging is too familiar. If you've swapped a few emails, a quick peck on the cheek is fine, but only if you feel comfortable doing so.Read his body language. If he seems shy, hold off on the cheek-kissing until the end of your date. A big smile is the best greeting there is.
4. Beware of talking too much
Less is more when it comes to first-date information. Nerves make us talk far more than we realise.But you need to offer enough positive info to keep him intrigued. This requires some pre-date prepping. Travel stories work well, because they get you both talking about good times and future dreams.
5. Leave exes in the past
Chatting about previous relationships sends the message that you haven't moved on.
6. Ask questions
The art of conversation is partly about your ability to ask good open-ended questions. Take your cues from what's going on around you. Also, take your cues from what you know already. Before your date, read the emails and note the things you'd like to know more about.
7. Body language tricks
Body language speaks volumes. First, relax; a tense, closed posture tells your date that you'd rather not be there.
Before you walk into the pub or get off the bus, take a few deep breaths, drop your shoulders and smile. If you learn to act relaxed, you really will feel more relaxed.
Eye contact is your most powerful body language weapon. Holding his gaze for a second or two creates a physical and psychological connection that's hard to resist.
8. Drink sensibly
A drink or two eases your shyness and is an age-old social winner. But it's not a magic confidence bullet. Booze on an empty stomach can quickly turn you from confident companion into one-woman Blackpool hen night.
Know your limits and stick to them. Next time you're out with your friends ask them to tell you honestly when you start acting tipsy. That's the point when you should switch to orange juice on a date.
9. Letting him down gently
Be honest. Don't make a dash out of the loo window. End the date after a couple of hours by saying that you need to head home. Thank him for a lovely time. If he suggests another date, politely decline. Even if he insisted on buying all the drinks you don't owe him anything. He'll get over it.
10. The next date?
Again, be honest and don't play games. At the end of the date, say that you'd like to do it again. Forget those 'rules' about letting him do all the chasing, waiting three days before calling and so on.
However, remember that he may feel differently in the cold light of day. If he decides that he'd rather not meet up again, don't push it.
The world, and the internet, are stuffed with gorgeous single men who'd love to date you many times over.
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