Publisher: Mike Pilinski
Gadget Name: Pick Up Artist\'s Tips and Dating Strategies
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|TIP 6 -- DO NOT BE WEIRD IF YOU CAN HELP IT||Published: 19/05/09|
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Tip # 6 -- Don't be weird if you can help it
This sounds rather obvious, but for many people unfortunately, it's not.
Single people can sometimes develop a disturbing strangeness after a long stretch of social reclusiveness that can tag them as personalities to be avoided. I know you've met women that you can almost tell at a glance are "lifetime virgins". In a man, single guy weirdness signals a neophyte when it comes to matters sexual (and probably emotional as well.) At least that's how most women will read it.
For them it's the unmistakable signature of a low status male who's been roundly rejected by women all his life!
Women are experts at picking up these signals -- far better than you and I (i.e., male lunkheads) will ever be. So while you're standing around socially incapacitated because you're afraid of being rejected, what you don't realize is that you already are rejected! You "auto-rejected" yourself before she ever had a chance to pass her own judgment of you, just by following up on the cues that you've given her.
See how much about yourself is on open display to everyone no matter how good you think you're hiding it? Communicated by your mere appearance and attitude and nothing more. That's why self-awareness is a critical element of and often the first step towards any meaningful change in your behavior.
So always try your damndest never to send the weird guy signal to women, ever. Give yourself a ruthless self-assessment every now and then -- it's good exercise for the soul and keeps you grounded in reality. Stay close to the accepted societal norms when it comes to dress, appearance, grooming, things you might like to talk about, books or magazines you like to read in a public place, etc.
The farther off on the fringes of society you seem, the smaller will be the pool of potential partners available to you. And since this is all ultimately a numbers game, by limiting the size of the pond you can swim in you will be handicapping your chances to meet someone acceptable tremendously.
To some extent I agree with the title of this article. My objection is what do you say to guys who legitimately cannot help being a bit different? I have Aspergers syndrome which certainly makes me a bit different. Despite being highly educated, well employed (and paid) in a managerial position and keeping fit and healthy, I have never had any success with women in my life - ever. I am 43yo. Readi
Posted by: Robert on 23/06/2009